Planning a Napa Valley Bachelorette? Steal My Exact Weekend Itinerary

Wooooo!! Calling all future brides and/or maid of honors (orrrr best friends) who have been tasked with the 2nd best part about a wedding. No I’m not talking about the honeymoon. I’m talking about the bachelorette!!! And since I literally just threw my own Napa Valley bachelorette party, you’re going to get the full inside scoop on everything we did to make it an unforgettable weekend. Honestly, I wouldn’t have had my bachelorette anywhere else besides Napa! And thank god we didn’t because I don’t think the ride home would’ve been enjoyable if it were any further than 1 hour away from San Francisco.

A classic Napa bachelorette is the ultimate combo of beautiful sunshine, endless wine, lounging around the pool, relaxing spa days, world-class dining options, and even hot air balloon rides.

So whether you’re the bride or the bride’s best girlies, keep reading for my full Napa Valley bachelorette plan, plus a sample weekend itinerary based on exactly what I did for my own!

So let’s get into a recap of the best weekend ever 👇

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Why Napa Valley Is Perfect for a Bachelorette Weekend

Before we get into the actual itinerary…let’s first talk about why Napa is perfect for a bachelorette party. Well, the weather alone makes it a wonderful choice. Think sunshine, warm afternoons, and crisp evenings perfect for rooftop drinks or live music outdoors.

Some girls might shy away from Napa due to cost but I’m here to tell you that there’s a few different ways to do Napa! Yes, you can go full glam with Michelin-starred dinners and five-star resorts BUT you can also keep it super low-key by renting a big house with your besties and go bar hopping around downtown Napa or cook dinner and play games inside the house! Either way, a Napa Valley bachelorette doesn’t have to drain everyone’s wallet.

And while it’s obviously famous for wine. It’s not just about the wine!

For your non-drinking besties aka the bachelorette parties for the girls in their 30s like mine where 1/3rd of the crew was pregnant, there are a ton of great spas, mud baths, walking trails, art galleries, and so much more in the valley. Which in case you didn’t know, is 30 miles long and 5 miles wide, stretching from the town of Napa in the south allllll the way up to Calistoga in the north.

For the drinkers? Aka me. Then you’ll really love Napa. There’s endless tastings, vineyard views that look straight out of a Pinterest board, and the famous Napa Valley Wine Train. In case you want to really lean into the vino before vows theme.

No but seriously: whether your vibe is sipping cabernet in the sun or soaking in a mineral bath, a Napa bachelorette party pretty much guarantees a weekend you’ll be talking about with your bridesmaids for years to come.

Not sure where to start in Napa? Head to my 3-day Napa Valley itinerary for more ideas!

Where to Stay in Napa Valley for a Bachelorette Party

Like I mentioned earlier, you can do Napa for your bachelorette in a bunch of different ways (cost wise). But when it comes to planning your Napa Valley bachelorette party, the real MVP decision is where you and your girlies are going to stay.

Are you a hotel girly (duh, I am) or more of an Airbnb/VRBO crew? For my Napa bachelorette party, we went the hotel route because let’s be honest…Discover Over There is all about design-forward boutique hotels and chic properties that make you feel like you’re on a photoshoot. But if you’re leaning towards a house rental, that’s totally okay too. I have a TON of friends who have rented a huge house in Napa and absolutely loved it. Think pools, big backyards, space to BBQ, firepits, and more!

Just one thing to keep in mind: if nightlife is even remotely on your list, you’ll want to stay closer to downtown Napa. Calistoga is cute and charming, but it basically only has one bar and is an hour north from downtown Napa. It’s perfect for a spa weekend, but not really ideal if you’re looking to get drinks after 7pm and/or want live music!

So for your Napa Valley bachelorette party, I’ve rounded up my top hotel picks for groups of 6+ and some gorgeous house rentals worth bookmarking. Trust me, you can’t go wrong here! It’s also worth noting that there aren’t thaaat many options for hotels that fit 6+ so I did all the hard work for you below. Which is also why I personally chose to stay at Silverado because they were amazing!

It just depends on how your crew wants to celebrate 💍

Top Hotel Picks for Your Napa Valley Bachelorette Party

Btw – there are plenty of hotels to choose from in Napa, but these five stand out because they can actually fit six girls in one room! Aka no need to split into separate rooms so I’ve ranked them from least to most expensive below!

• The Meritage Resort And Spa — The Meritage Resort and Spa feels like it was designed for a Napa bachelorette party. Between the poolside cabanas, full-service spa, multiple restaurants and a grocery market on site, and there’s even a wine cave on property. You seriously won’t need to leave to have a good time. Rooms for 6 here at The Meritage Resort and Spa start at $650. Click here to book via Expedia. Click here to book via Booking.com.
  
• The Westin Verasa Napa — The Westin Verasa Napa is a stylish yet laid-back pick right in downtown. You’ll be steps from restaurants, bars, and tasting rooms, which makes it easy to plan a night out without worrying about Ubers. My fiance and I often stay here since it’s right in the heart of Downtown Napa. You’ll be able to easily walk to the bars and Oxbow Market. The Westin Verasa Napa is great if your group wants a mix of wine by day and city energy by night. Rooms for 6 here at The Westin Verasa Napa start at $700. Click here to book via Expedia. Click here to book via Booking.com.
  
• Silverado Resort & Spa — This is where we stayed!!! Silverado Resort & Spa has big resort vibes with golf courses, tennis courts, multiple pools, and a full spa. It feels a little more like a country club, but it still works perfectly for a group trip where everyone wants space to spread out. If your bachelorette crew loves lounging poolside as much as staying active, Silverado Resort & Spa checks both boxes. Rooms for 6 here at Silverado Resort & Spa start at $900. Click here to book via Expedia. Click here to book via Booking.com.
  
• Carneros Resort and Spa — Carneros Resort and Spa is your bougie girls’ getaway dream come true. Think private cottages, vineyard views, and a pool that begs for matching swimsuits and champagne toasts. Carneros Resort and Spa nails that perfect balance of elevated and playful, making it one of the most fun settings for a bachelorette weekend. Rooms for 6 here at Carneros Resort and Spa start at $1200. Click here to book via Expedia. Click here to book via Booking.com.
  
• Stanly Ranch, Auberge Collection — Stanly Ranch is the ultimate splurge, combining modern vineyard villas, fire pits, and top-tier dining with wellness treatments to reset between the celebrations. People often compare it to Carneros but I think it takes the cake. Both are fantastic but I love the design of Stanly Ranch 10x more. It’s the kind of spot where you’ll wake up to vineyard views and wonder if you should ever leave. For a bachelorette that feels once-in-a-lifetime, Stanly Ranch delivers the wow factor. Rooms for 6 here at Stanly Ranch start at $1500. Click here to book via Expedia.

Top House Rentals for Your Napa Valley Bachelorette

You all know I’m a hotel girlie, so I won’t claim to be an expert on house rentals. What I am an expert in is location and research, so I pulled together my top 3 picks for big houses with pools that are perfectly situated near downtown or the wineries for your bachelorette weekend in Napa!

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My Exact Napa Valley Weekend Bachelorette Itinerary

Okay you finally made it to the best part! My exact Napa Valley Bachelorette weekend itinerary. (We ended up making a couple slight tweaks along the way but this basically what the plan was for the entire weekend. Keep reading to start getting ideas on how your bachelorette in Napa could look 🍇

BONUS: Click here for my custom bachelorette itinerary from Canva!

Day 1 of your Napa Valley Bachelorette

Here’s the quick TLDR on day 1 of my Napa Valley bachelorette. Keep reading for the full recap!

• Checked into our newly renovated 3-bedroom suite at Silverado Resort
• Reserved a cabana and had ourselves a pool day with margaritas, tacos, and guacamole!
• Headed to Downtown Yountville for pre-dinner cocktails at Bottega (worth noting that you could easily substitute Yountville for Downtown Napa if you’re looking for a more upbeat vibe. I’m in my 30’s and typically eat dinner at 5pm these days so Yountville was more my vibe).
• Dinner & drinks @ Clementine in Yountville

Day 2 of your Napa Valley Bachelorette

Here’s the quick TLDR on day 2 of my Napa Valley bachelorette. Keep reading for the full breakdown of our busiest day!

• 9:15am pick up by our party limo from Silverado Resort
• 10am bubbly tasting @ Davie’s Vineyards
• 12pm Lunch at RH Yountville
• 2:30pm tasting @ Paraduxx
• Limo back to Silverado Resort
• Sunset cocktails overlooking the golf course at The Mansion Bar & Terrace
  • (located inside Silverado Resort)
• Ordered chinese food and played games at night

Day 3 of your Napa Valley Bachelorette (Optional)

• Checked out of Silverado Resort
• Headed to Bear at Stanly Ranch for brunch
• Spa day at Halehouse
• Left Napa in the late afternoon and headed back to San Francisco

Additional Napa Valley Bachelorette Things to Do

#1. Soar Over Napa Valley on a Hot Air Balloon Ride

Want jaw-dropping views of the valley? Then you need to see Napa from above! (Or get a drone like I did). or do both…

Just after sunrise, hop into a hot-air balloon and watch the rolling vineyards come alive as you float up to 2,000 feet. The experience includes coffee beforehand (and sparkling wine after). Perfect for celebrating your Napa Valley bachelorette party with something totally unique and unforgettable!

Got extra time in wine country? Don’t miss my 3-day Napa Valley itinerary for a full list of top things to do in Napa!

#2. Indulge in a Mocktail + Culinary Food Tour of Downtown Napa

If your crew’s not drinking but still wants to get a taste of the world-class food in Napa, then you’ve gotta try this zero-proof culinary food tour across downtown Napa. You can join another group or book a private experience! The tour comes with a super knowledgeable guide where you’ll hear fascinating stories about Napa’s history and culture while tasting some of the best food and drinks in town.

It’s the perfect way to experience Napa’s food scene without the hangover.

#3. Encounter Exotic Wildlife at Safari West

Giraffes in California?!? I know. Crazy right. Although technically located in Sonoma, Safari West is an unforgettable open-air wildlife experience that’ll make you feel like you’re in Africa. You’ll spot giraffes, cheetahs, wildebeests, and flamingos on a 3-hour Jeep and walking tour while learning about conservation efforts. They were also closed due to covid for so long and have only just recently reopened so it’s 100% worth going to support them during your Napa bachelorette weekend!

Staying in Napa for longer? Don’t miss my 3-day Napa Valley itinerary for a full list of top things to do in Napa!

Tips for Planning a Stress-Free Napa Valley Bachelorette

As a self-proclaimed wine country expert, there are a few things to keep in mind when planning a smooth and successful Napa bachelorette. These tips are all based on my own personal experience but also years of being a heavy traveler. The most important part though? Making sure you have an awesome group of friends who are EXCITED to celebrate the briiiide!!

Once you have that, then you’re golden! But here are my top 3 tips to make life easier for you and the bride 👇

Tip #1: Lock Down Accommodations Early

As I listed earlier, there aren’t thaaaat many hotel options in Napa Valley for a Napa bachelorette with 6+ girls. Unless you want to get 2 hotel rooms but where’s the fun in that? There’s definitely more options when it comes to Airbnbs/VRBOs but you guys know I’m a hotel girlie. Regardless though, May-October are busy months for the valley.

Between Bottlerock, summer events, harvest, etc – Napa really fills up quickly. So as SOON as you know the dates and have a group of girls, make sure you get your accommodation locked down 🔒

Tip #2: Keep the Itinerary Light and Fun

Nobody wants a Type A Ashley on a bachelorette weekend. Lol because I’m normally that person. But bachelorettes are best when there’s a “sorta kinda loose plan” for what you’re doing. And that is definitely true for Napa. So instead of building a super jam-packed itinerary, I’d pick 1-2 main things or places to go and then leave the rest up to the group!

Tip #3: Plan Tastings + Transportation Ahead of Time

Besides locking in your accommodations, there are two big things I’d recommend booking ahead: transportation and tastings.

For transportation, I highly recommend going with a private bus or limo!! Or anything that keeps your group together and stress-free. Even if your schedule isn’t fully mapped out yet, having a ride set up saves you from scrambling last minute to find a van.

Worst case, there’s always Uber but it adds up fast and the wait times are really unpredictable during summer. Plus, there’s nothing better than blasting your own playlist while being chauffeured from winery to lunch spot to the next stop on your list. Or in our case, my little dog Bagel got to join us for the back half of the day since my fiance happened to be golfing in the area so he dropped her off!

Without a private ride, she definitely wouldn’t have been able to join in on the pawwwtyyy 🐾

As for tastings, booking in advance is kinda non-negotiable. Only a handful of wineries can handle larger groups, and those spots go quick. Some of my favorites are the ones I already mentioned above (Davies Vineyards and Paraduxx), but I’d also add these to the list:

• Domaine Carneros
• Alpha Omega
• Castello di Amorosa

👉 Want even more winery recs? Head to my full 3-day Napa Valley itinerary for the complete roundup.

Napa Valley Bachelorette Party FAQ

To help you plan the perfect Napa Valley bachelorette weekend, here are some commonly asked questions to help you organize the most unforgettable Napa bachelorette 🕊️

When is the best time of year for a Napa Valley bachelorette party?

Spring, summer, and fall are all amazing choices for a Napa bachelorette. It really depends on your vibe… and wedding date lol. Spring brings perfect weather and blooming vineyards, summer means long sunny days (yes, it gets hot, but pool time and rosé make up for it), and fall is harvest season, which is peak wine country magic.

Notice how I left out winter but I definitely want to mention that November might be my absolute favorite time to visit Napa. The leaves are INSANELY beautiful with hues of red, orange, and yellow. So what I’m basically trying to say is that there is never a bad time or season for a Napa Valley bachelorette 🍁

What are the best transportation options for a bachelorette group in Napa?

For a Napa bachelorette itinerary, transportation is something you’ll want to lock in early. Private vans, buses, or limos are 💯 the move. It keeps everyone together, safe, and stress-free. Uber and Lyft exist, but they get pricey and availability is hard to predict.

Take it from someone who’s waited anywhere from 2-30 minutes for an uber from one winery to other.

Do yourself a favor and just book the private transportation 🚐

How many wineries should we realistically plan to visit in one day?

Less is more tbh. For a Napa bachelorette party, 2-3 wineries in a day is plenty. Tastings usually last an hour or more, and you’ll want time for food, photos, and just hanging with your girls. Rushing from one place to another is seriously annoying and stressful.

Aim to leave at least two hours between each reservation aka so please spread things out and enjoy the experience 🍷

Are there non-wine activities for groups that don’t want to drink?

Absolutely! One of my best friends was pregnant and a couple of my other girlfriends didn’t prefer wine.

Your Napa bachelorette itinerary doesn’t have to revolve around wine. You can do hot-air balloon rides, a foodie tour downtown with zero-proof cocktails, hiking, spa days, or even a safari at Safari West.

Napa has a ton of fun, unique activities that aren’t just about drinking 🚫

Is a Napa Valley bachelorette party expensive?

It can be but you have options. Tastings usually range from $40–$100 per person, and transportation/accommodation is where you’ll spend the bulk of your money.

That said, you can totally design a Napa bachelorette party that works for your budget by mixing in casual wineries, packing a picnic, or booking reasonable accomodation.

You can totally do Napa in luxury, but it also doesn’t have to break the bank.

Is Napa or Sonoma better for a bachelorette party?

Both are amazing, but it depends on your vibe. Napa bachelorette weekends lean a little more bougie with luxury hotels, design-forward wineries, and polished experiences. A Sonoma bachelorette party will be slightly more laid-back, a little more spread out, and often more budget-friendly.

Want to visit both? No problem! Napa and Sonoma are literally neighbors, just about a 30-minute drive apart. I’ve been to bachelorettes in both places and they were equally as fun!

So no matter which one you choose for your bachelorette, you really can’t go wrong with either 🤷🏻‍♀️

Planning the Perfect Napa Valley Bachelorette: Final Thoughts

Annnnd there you have it! The perfect bachelorette weekend in wine country to celebrate YOU (if you’re the bride) or your soon to be married bestie!!!

As you just read…planning the perfect Napa Valley bachelorette really comes down to balancing wine, food, fun, and a little downtime with your crew. Book your tastings and transportation early, sprinkle in some non-wine activities and try not to stress too much over it!! (That’s what the wedding can be for).

Seriously, no matter how you build your Napa bachelorette itinerary, you’re in for an unforgettable weekend.

Did you end up celebrating your bachelorette in Napa Valley? Or did you organize one for your crew? Let me know in the comments below!

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